Jul 1, 2009

Day 37: week 5

Today I REALLY want something other than water. Not juice, but soda. So, I got a grape soda. No caffeine. It sounds like that should be ok, as long as I don't drink a lot of it. (sugar and other stuff not so good, but not so bad either) Of course, I took one sip and don't feel so much like it anymore. I don't really feel like the water either, but I'm still thirsty. :(
I'm trying to think of a way to tell my mom. I am more of less down to making a calendar for her to 'follow' us along with. Of course, I don't know exactly when I would be due (somewhere around Feb 18th from my figuring out) and so that makes the calendar a bit difficult to do. And, there are no calendars that go from June 2009- Feb 2010 unless you customize it. Which leads me to problem one. I wanted to make stickers like "dr's apt" "sonogram" "week 6-40" "felt kicks" and stuff like that.
But, that is a lot of work, so I may go back to a regular thing of sending her something with 'grandma' on it. Which would still be cute, but I like the calendar better. Because she lives in CA and and I'm in VA, I want her to feel involved. I think it'll be good for her after my grandma died this Feb.
The other idea I thought was cute was to take pictures in 'phrases' poses. Like bun in the oven, barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, pea in a pod, etc. I may do that still.
Also, I want to get something for my brother and sister with aunt and uncle on it to announce it to them. :)
Any suggestions?

Baby Sleeping
I found a good article today on when baby should sleep through the night: http://pregnancyandbaby.sheknows.com/blog/baby-sleep/when-do-babies-sleep-through-the-night/
Now, I may not be good when I have my own kid, but in general my idea of child rearing seems harsh to most people until I see these articles. (and this one: "Can a child have an eating disorder?") Because, I do think that the parents should BE the parents and that kids need to know their barriers and what they can and can not do and LEARN from the parents how to act. My friend's baby knows that when the mom is feeding her, she can be fussy and nothing will happen, but she eats fine with everyone else. Likewise, the baby still sleeps with her mom and she is almost 1 1/2 old! Of course, the baby won't sleep otherwise unless you go to her! We tried, when she was a little baby still to get them to understand that you can leave the baby crying if nothing is wrong, because sometimes babies just cry. They can't express they are tired, so they cry. They don't know how to fall asleep, so they cry. They don't feel good, so they cry. It's fine, they will stop after 10-15 minutes if nothing is wrong. And during those 10-15 mintues - YOU CAN'T BE IN THE ROOM! They see you and know you are there and so will keep it up! Babies are SMART! They apparently know how to manipulate people after like 4-6 months!
So, that is my plan and hopefully that will work fine. As long as I remain calm. And stick to my guns. Because I do NOT want to have a year old child who can't sleep on their own, be feed without fussing or anything like that!! You have to deal with the fussing to get them to do what needs to be done!!!

2 comments:

  1. I don't want to be patronizing, because I hated when people treated me that way when I was pregnant...but it's *SO* true that you can plan all you want and say what kind of parent you are going to be, but you can't really know until you meet that little person who is inside you. S/he will be an individual with his/her own personality. In general I agree that parents have to push through the child's protests to do what's right -- I hate seeing people give their kids candy bars at the grocery store just to shut them up -- but infant sleep is very tricky. I'm sorry, but you're just plain wrong that "they will stop after 10-15 minutes if nothing is wrong". Some babies will continue to cry as long as you leave them, even if that's for hours -- and that's not good for the baby. They can vomit and aspirate, not to mention the stress it causes -- please read this article: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp

    You will PROBABLY have one of the 80% of babies who are "easy" and will sleep for long stretches (5-6 hours) by 8-12 weeks and up to 8-10 hours a few months after that. But you COULD have one of the 20% of babies who are difficult sleepers and need a lot more patience and sensitivity. Also, if you're planning to breastfeed, you should realize that breastmilk, being the perfect food for baby, is quickly and efficiently digested, meaning that newborns have to be breastfed every 2-3 hours, including at night, for the first 8-12 weeks. Some babies will go 5-6 hours before then, but some babies won't. And many breastfed babies wake up once per night to eat until about 9 months old. To me, that's a sacrifice I'm absolutely willing to make in order to give my baby the optimum start in life.

    Please check out these books before baby comes: Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth (good research on infant sleep, but I disagree with his promotion that CIO is the best way) and The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.

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  2. Lol- wow, it's so fun to go back and read what I wrote at the begining of my pregnancy!!! :)

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